This is for all my ladies who are afraid to shoot their shots with the men they love. Let’s be real. We can’t leave the shooting of shots for the men alone.
It’s time to take the bull by the horn and tell that man that you’ve been feeling him. And we have tips on how to. But first…
How do I know I like him?
I think you need to be sure of your feelings before you shoot your shot.
First of all, love is not easy. Love doesn’t always look the same.
Sometimes, it progresses through specific stages. Someone may hate a guy so much that it transcends into love. Or you may meet a guy and it’s love at first sight. Others may take time to let their attraction develop.
It’s different for many people.
You will know if you like someone if you frequently think back to your last interaction or if you want to tell them about your experiences every day: the great, the awful, and the ordinary. You always want to talk to them and you feel so safe with them.
Trust is generally a key component of love. Life gets really interesting with them around! The sky is brighter! Nature is more beautiful… all that fairytale thing!
You feel a lot of compassion for them and there’s also the aspect of jealousy! Lots of women are jealous when they like someone. You may not want to admit it, but you act out whenever you hear or see the person with another lady.
If you have been experiencing any of these things, congratulations! You like that man.
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Should I tell him I like him?
You may think that it is not necessary. You may want him to shoot his shot with you but confidence attracts men. It turns them on when you want to take risks! Even if he didn’t like you before, he could fall in love with you after you tell him!
However, if you don’t tell him, the relationship may never happen. Remember, a closed mouth is a closed destiny.
But hey! Don’t tell him that you like him if:
- You haven’t known each other that well
- He doesn’t reciprocate any flirting that you do
- You don’t talk to each other often
- He’s already stated he just wants to be friends
- He’s said he doesn’t like you like that.
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How do I tell a guy that I like him? Tips to shooting my shot
His presence excites and flusters you. Your racing heart, churning stomach, and shaky legs confirm it: you have a full-blown crush.
Now what?
1. Find out whether he likes you or not
I think it’s important to find out if he likes you first before shooting your shot. Some guys may not verbally say they want you, but may resort to other tactics: gift-giving, disturbing you, or even acts of service.
If he does, go forth with confidence because you have everything to lose unless you try! If he doesn’t, don’t despair; you have a chance to change his mind. Or not.
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2. Find out if he is seeing anyone
Oh yes! Nobody wants to be a home wrecker. You need to be sure he is not seeing anyone or in a very serious relationship. If he is in a relationship, I don’t think it’s appropriate for you to still shoot your shot. Although some people would say it’s best to just let him know of your feelings and let fate happen.
It all depends on the relationship he has and also if he has been feeling you as much as you have been feeling him.
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3. Straight up tell him
Men are very direct creatures. If you just tell him you like him, he will get the hint. Now, this takes some guts on your part. A lot of serious balls!
It’s not usually the route most girls take, because they’re looking to make more of an impression. Look for the right time to tell him of your feelings. For example, you could say “I have been thinking about you lately and I like you”
Too direct, right? But trust me, men love it.
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4. Show an interest in what he enjoys
One way you can show a guy you like him is by taking an interest in the things he’s interested in. If he’s really into football, try to catch a game with him or better still talk about his favorite players.
He may not notice that you’ve taken up his interests, but he will start to see you as compatible, and that’s close enough in a guy’s world. Sometimes you have to be subtle.
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5. Compliment his looks
You find him attractive, so tell him! Those brown eyes, the tall physique! If there’s one thing that will get a guy’s attention, it’s telling him that you find him attractive! He will feel good to be around you.
This will also make him take notice of how you look, and it will get the wheels turning in his head about you.
Use your body language
As well as using the words, also use that body!
The thing about men is that they are interested in your body language. Yeah I know it’s sad, but you can use it to your advantage.
When you are talking, lean in closer. You can flip your hair, pout your lips seductively or you sway your hips when you walk away.
Talk to his friends
Guys talk to each other just like girls do. They may even have more to talk about. If you’re asking his friends about him, especially his romantic relationship, just like girls would, they WILL go and tell him you were asking.
And they will probably do you the favor of telling him that you like him because they’ll be able to tell. So hey! You didn’t have to do it yourself!
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6. Offer to help
Let this love language show. Men may not want to ask for help but if he needs help with something, offer to be the one to assist them.
Sure, this might be difficult if he wants help fixing the car and you have no prior knowledge, but choose your battles wisely with this one! Being around to help means you’re spending more time with him and that could lead to great things.
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7. Ask him on a date
If all else fails, ask him out! Ask him out to the movies or maybe for a picnic date! Any guy in their right mind will know that a date means you like him. He would immediately know that you like him!
Guess what? You can also go to his favorite place! That would score you some points with him.
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8. Get a friend to do the honors
Sometimes, you have to be a little sneaky. Guys just don’t get it sometimes. If you have a close friend who’s great at this love thing, let it be known that you like the guy, and then let them drop some sneaky hints here and there.
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9. Write him a note
Feeling old school? Write him a cute note telling him how you feel. This is the perfect way to show him you like him. You could give him a love letter which gives him a great hint that you like him.
First of all, think about your relationship.
Did you guys just meet? Maybe keep it simple. But if you’ve been good friends for a while, you can write it longer.
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Conclusion
As women, we often feel uncomfortable being bold. But when we have feelings, we want to confess them. Don’t let the fear of rejection stop you from getting that well deserved love story!
