A Nigerian lady, Vash Offo, has taken to social media to narrate her best friend’s current ordeal in relation to the divorce rates in Nigeria and what women go through in marriages.
According to her, her best friend, who is a medical doctor, divorced her husband because of his controlling nature.
In a series of tweets, the lady revealed that it was her best friend’s husband who had imposed strict restrictions on her friend, his wife and stopped her from hanging out with friends.
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She shared that her friend’s husband had even once scolded her for paying a visit to her own parents, who lived in the same city as them.
According to her, what broke the camel’s back, forcing her friend to finally decide to leave the marriage was when she was locked out of their home by the husband because she went for a group study at night.
Read her full tweet below,
“Divorce rates are not even high enough in Nigeria. Women are going through shege. A lot of Nigerian men are unhinged. My best friend’s case is still shocking me. She was the life of the party in med school and an amazing entrepreneur.”
He will reprimand her for even going to see her parents in the same Lagos
Got married and he stopped her from seeing her friends. He will reprimand her for even going to see her parents in the same Lagos . On the same Lagos island! she respected all that for the marriage to ‘work’.
The last straw was locking her out because she attended a discussion class with her colleagues prior to her part 1 exams. He told her not to go for the discussion class. Something she needed to pass her exams. She came back and he had locked her out. That’s how the marriage ended.
Contrary to what y’all like to think, women are not divorcing men in Nigeria, enough!!! A lot of women are still putting up with so much rubbish. Believe it or not, a lot of women are suffering because of the shame of a marriage not working out.
If you see a divorced woman in Nigeria, biko applaud her. It must have taken a lot for her to decide to leave that marriage. A lot are still suffering. I will always be in awe of women that leave ugly marriages in Nigeria.
My friend’s dad actually told her, ‘if your husband wants you to stop visiting your parents house, respect him. He is your husband’ Her dad also said, ‘why are you even seeing your friends and going for weddings? Stay at home if that’s what he wants’ . Still it wasn’t enough.
We don’t talk enough about the loyalty that a lot of Nigerian fathers owe to the men their daughters are married to. They transfer the control they had as fathers to the husbands. It’s like women have no agency and are just property. Nigeria is WILD!
“We need to take away shame in Nigeria and I’m glad that the stigma that comes with being divorced, is being dealt with… but to be honest, just a tiny part of the surface has been scratched. Many more women are still putting up with a lot to just remain married.”
— vashti (@Vash_Offo) May 22, 2023
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Inside Life: Four years after divorce, woman remarries as third wife
In another news, after four years of divorcing her husband, a woman ends up as the third wife in recent marriage.
A Twitter user, going by the handle @KawuGarba, tweeted the story. He narrated that the woman had assisted the man in paying for his law school tuition.
After completing his education and securing his ideal position years later, he made the decision to bring a new wife into his home. This led to conflict with his first wife, who filed for divorce.