“Is it normal for my girlfriend to hit me?”
Well, I say it depends on what circumstances surround the situation. Sometimes you might need a good slap to reset your brain.
However, Battabox, or I for that matter, do not encourage abuse in any form.
PS: It is important to emphasize that violence and abuse are never acceptable behaviors in any kind of relationship. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse or violence, it is crucial to seek help immediately. This article is not intended to excuse or condone violence in relationships but to provide information and resources for those who may be experiencing it.
SEE: Domestic Violence: 5 Signs you are a victim and helpful resources
What is domestic violence?
Domestic violence is a pattern of behaviors that one partner uses to control and dominate the other partner in a relationship. Now domination alone is not a terrible thing. Ain’t that right, Anastasia Steele?
Domination is a combination of care and control. However, when you ignore the care part and lean more towards control, it can birth domestic violence in certain behaviors. These behaviors can be physical, emotional, or sexual.
Domestic violence can happen in any relationship, including heterosexual, same-sex, and transgender relationships. It can happen to anyone, regardless of age, race, religion, or socioeconomic status.
Related: Domestic Abuse: Meaning, Causes, Prevention, and More
Causes of domestic violence
Domestic violence is a complex issue that can have many underlying causes. It is important to note that the responsibility for the violence always lies with the abuser and that no one deserves to be subjected to abuse. That being said, here are some common causes of domestic violence:
- Learned Behavior: Some individuals who grow up in homes where domestic violence is present may become desensitized to violence and aggression and view it as a standard way to deal with conflict. This is the reason you have bullies in your school or workplace. This happens more often than not.
- Control: Domestic violence is often used as a way to control the victim and maintain power in the relationship. The abuser may use violence and other abusive behaviors to isolate the victim from friends and family, limit their access to resources, and control their daily activities.
- Mental Health Issues: Some abusers may have untreated mental health issues, such as personality disorders or substance abuse, contributing to their abusive behavior.
- Societal Norms and Stereotypes: Certain societal norms and stereotypes, such as traditional gender roles or beliefs about masculinity, may contribute to a culture of violence and make it difficult for some individuals to seek help or speak out about their experiences.
- Economic Stress: Financial stress and economic hardships can create tension in relationships and contribute to domestic violence.
- Trauma: Individuals who have experienced trauma, such as childhood abuse or neglect, may be more likely to become perpetrators or victims of domestic violence.
It is important to remember that domestic violence is never the fault of the victim and that the abuser is solely responsible for their behavior. Seeking help and support is crucial for anyone experiencing domestic violence.
Related: #Domestic Abuse: Lady cries out, says mum must not “end up like Osinachi”
Understanding domestic violence in relationships
Domestic violence is a serious problem that affects individuals of all genders and backgrounds. Despite this, it remains a taboo topic that is often not discussed openly. This can make it difficult for individuals experiencing domestic violence to recognize it for what it is and seek help.
In fact, in Nigeria, it is almost commonplace for people not to speak of it. In the one-too-many cases of domestic abuse, you’d find people telling the victim to make up with the oppressor. This kind of mental fuckery is why we need more pro-bono lawyers but I digress.
One question that some individuals may have is, “Is it normal for my girlfriend to hit me?” This article aims to provide information and resources to help individuals answer this question.
Is it normal for my girlfriend to hit me?
No, it is not normal for anyone to hit their partner. It’s a relationship, not the WBA finals. On a personal note, I can’t even deal with violence because I will definitely give tit-for-tat. Same energy (push for push, slap for slap), and then what? Either we both end up dead or one of us dies trying and the other becomes a murderer.
Don’t let Joe Goldberg fool you. It’s not as easy as it looks.
Generally, violence is a two-way street with no monopoly. In relationships, violence is unacceptable and should not be tolerated. It is important to recognize that domestic violence is not just limited to physical violence.
It can also include emotional and psychological abuse, such as verbal attacks, controlling behavior, and isolating the partner from friends and family.
Related: Mental Illness: Causes and Perception in Nigeria
What you should do if you’re facing domestic violence?
If you are experiencing domestic violence, get help. There are many resources available to help you. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is a confidential and free resource that can provide information, support, and referrals to local resources. You can call the hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit their website at thehotline.org.
The Nigerian Constitution also has punitive laws set in place regarding domestic violence. You would be wise not to become tomorrow’s lesson.
You can also reach out to a trusted friend or family member, a therapist, or a domestic violence advocate for support. It is important to remember that you are never alone and help is always available.
Related: Red Flags In Relationships You Must Not Ignore
A final word from BattaBox
Domestic violence is a serious problem that affects many individuals. Recognizing that violence in relationships is unacceptable and should not be tolerated is important. “Is it normal for my girlfriend to hit me?” No, pal. It is not.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, it is crucial to seek help immediately. There are many resources available to provide support and assistance. Remember, you deserve to be in a safe and healthy relationship.
If you have any questions, let us know below.