From many accounts, revenge s3x is the bomb!
I think it’s because of how forbidden it is. You know, either trying desperately to hold on to a relationship after a breakup. just showing the other person what they are going to miss when you are gone, or simply cheating on your partner to teach them a lesson.
The adrenaline that comes with shina and isekuse is unrivaled.
What is revenge s3x?
Also known as angry s3x or breakup s3x, the meaning of revenge s3x depends on the reasons for doing it.
For some people, it is a way of getting back at someone for cheating (first to do no dey pain) or to show the person one last time, what they are missing. Others do it in an attempt to get over someone after being served breakfast.
Whatever the motivation, revenge s3x is basically engaging in s3xual activities to get back at someone else.
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Why does it happen?
In a 2014 study of 170 undergrad students who’d experienced a breakup within the previous eight months, 25% admitted to having had s3x as a form of revenge.
So why exactly do people do it? I think we can safely blame hormones. But apart from hormones, here are some possible reasons people do it as well:
To avoid sadness
Even if only temporarily, engaging in s3xual activity with another person can actually help you prevent sadness. That’s because it releases oxytocin, also known as the “love hormone”. And no, oxytocin is not Yoruba.
You also experience it more intensely while you are in the throes of new love or passion, which might be a welcome change from crying to Adele songs after a breakup.
To express anger
The distinction between the fury bang and revenge s3x is hazy.
The American Psychology Association states that anger is typically accompanied by hostile thoughts and unhelpful acts that arise in response to someone else’s undesirable conduct, usually someone we like or love.
Typically, being furious indicates that you are also hurt, sad, dissatisfied, unloved, or unwanted. Oh, sure!
After a breakup, you could prefer to let your fury and rage out through s3xual activity. Why? You were taught better than to punch someone in the throat, and cutting their tires is a criminal violation.
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To boost self-esteem
There is proof that breakups, unrequited affections, and romantic rejection damage your self-esteem and self-concept.
It is common to need an ego boost after a breakup has knocked your confidence to the ground. Hooking up with someone might boost your self-esteem by making you feel desirable and wanted.
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To have some form of control
One could feel helpless if the other person decides to stop the relationship. Especially if it’s a relationship that you have invested so much in.
Retaliation s3x is a strategy used by some people to feel in control.
5 Nigerians on revenge s3x
This girl forgot I’m a spec
“So I was in a friends-with-benefits relationship with this babe. And she wanted me to be exclusive with her, while she goes around with other guys. I don’t think she realized how attractive I am; there’s no shortage of babes over here.
So I hooked up with one other babe and we had s3x with all the anger in me.
It was really good. Eventually, I left my friends with benefits for her.”
With my ex’s best friend
“I slept with my ex’s best friend on his birthday, two years after we had broken up.
This man thought I would forgive and forget. He slept with my friend while we were dating. I waited till after 2 years and had s3x with his best friend.
I made sure it was good, and I’m sure his friend would have told him.”
Had s3x with my ex’s cousin
“I wanted to get back to my girlfriend. So I befriended her cousin on Facebook; I knew that one was into me and I wanted to have s3x with her to get back at my girlfriend.
When this chick found out about it, instead of getting pissed, she concocted a plan and we have one of the greatest s3x ever.
She even went and told people about it and how good I was in bed. Word reached my ex-girlfriend and she was jealous, mad, and pissed AF!
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I infected my ex
“I wanted to hurt this man in a way he’d never forget. I had unprotected s3x and made sure I contracted a disease.
Then I let my ex-boyfriend have s3x with me and passed the infection to him.
When I broke up with him, he was in pain, both emotionally and physically. I was really happy and I don’t regret a thing”
I married his Cousin
“My ex was cheating on me for 3 months straight. I was heartbroken when I found out, but I met his cousin during that time. One thing led to the other, we had s3x.
I developed feelings for him and we got married. When my ex found out, he wanted to ment.”
Pros and cons of revenge s3x
As much as revenge s3x may sound like the best thing since Agege bread, especially from the stories above, it comes with its own gains and pains as well.
Before you decide to jump into it, let’s explore the pros and cons, shall we?
Pros:
You get to have s3x
This is the most obvious advantage of revenge s3x. You get to have s3x, and you get to do it with someone different.
You can decide to even go the extra mile by trying something you were too afraid to try with your partner. Like the vacuum seal double hand twist gawk gawk combo 3000, or in the praying mantis position.
It helps relieve the tension
Even though this is temporary and you might still need to face the reality of your situation, it is an interesting way to step out of the mess for a while.
It helps to boost your confidence and self-esteem
For someone who has just been let down by a partner, revenge s3x can be the confidence boost you need.
Being wanted by someone else can lift your mood and release feel-good hormones in the body.
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Cons:
Revenge s3x will not help you get over your ex
This is especially true for people who have been in long-term relationships. Having meaningless s3x won’t let you completely forget about your ex if you were together for a number of years.
Instead, by ignoring them and searching for flings, you are ensuring that those memories will eventually come back to haunt you. Instead, use the opportunity to reflect and move past the relationship.
You may find it difficult to get into a relationship again
You can feel that you’re better off being alone after a bad relationship, but that’s usually just your resentment and emotional suffering speaking.
After a breakup, it can be tempting to jump from one pointless fling to another in an effort to prove to your ex that you’re having a good time. However, doing this may prevent you from making genuine connections and having meaningful relationships again.
It makes them feel justified
If your ex finds out that after cheating on you, you cheated back, they can feel justified and begin to act like all is well since you have evened the scores. Some might even go as far as accusing you of cheating during the relationship.
An eye for an eye makes the world blind, so if you ask me, I’d say take the high road. The cons are definitely not worth it in the end. If you are going through heartbreak, I believe music is the way. It gives the same satisfaction as revenge s3x.
Here’s my playlist of heartbreak songs to help you heal.
Love and light.
