In proper British English, slaying is often used informally to describe the art of looking particularly stylish, confident, or attractive.
Are you thinking Yemi Alade? Tiwa Savage? Beyoncé or Kim Kardashian? Oh no, not those.
So what or who is the definition of slay queen? Yes, it is a slang that has become popular on social media and is often used in reference to fashion, makeup, and overall appearance.
When someone is “slaying”, it typically means that they are looking their best and are confident in their appearance.
Slaying is often used as a compliment or as a way to express admiration for someone’s sense of style or overall look. But such cannot be said when “slay” is followed by “Queen”.
No, not the Queen of England, for England hath no queen anymore yonder, although they still own the English Language. Read on, as we define what this truly means.
Who is a slay queen?
Slay queens are interested in fashion, style, and current trends. They often have a keen eye for aesthetics and enjoy experimenting with different clothing styles and accessories.
Also known as fashionistas, they are typically well-informed about the latest fashion trends and designers, and are often seen as trendsetters in their social circles. They may be in the fashion industry (fashion bloggers) or simply as enthusiasts who enjoy expressing themselves through fashion.
Being a fashionista involves a deep interest and passion for fashion, a creative and individualistic approach to dressing, and a desire to stay up-to-date with the latest fashion trends.
However, slay queens can have negative sterotypes in culture and society. Young women in African countries are sometimes termed slay queens if they exhibit the characteristics we describe below.
- Presenting themselves in a certain way, either on social media or in real life, that is not an accurate reflection of their true selves. This can include portraying a life of luxury and wealth that they do not actually have, pretending to have achieved certain accomplishments or milestones that they have not, or presenting a false image of themselves in order to gain attention, validation, or social status.
- They are often associated with materialism, going to great lengths to present themselves as wealthy or successful, even if they are not. This can lead to feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and pressure to maintain the facade. In some cases, slay queens may resort to unethical or illegal activities in order to maintain the appearance of a certain lifestyle.
How to spot a Slay Queen
Always showing off
Slay queens frequently and intentionally display their wealth, possessions, or accomplishments to others in order to gain attention or admiration. This behavior can be seen as attention-seeking or seeking validation from others.
While it’s natural to want to share one’s accomplishments, constantly showing off can come across as arrogant or narcissistic. This creates resentment or jealousy in others, leading to strained relationships. As such, a good place to find slay queens is on reality TV shows.
Slay queens frequently use profanity, insults, or derogatory language when communicating with others.
This disrespectful, offensive, and inappropriate behavior can make others feel uncomfortable or disrespected. Slay queens are after the “bag” and will do or say whatever it takes to get it.
However, it’s important to recognize that the use of certain language can be subjective and may vary depending on cultural or social context. Slay queens do not consider what an average person considers “bad language” as offensive. In some cases, their use of bad language may be a habit or a way to express frustration or anger.
In other cases, it may be a sign of a deeper underlying issue, such as stress, anxiety, or a rampant lack of social skills.
Always at every party
Slay queens enjoys socializing and connecting with others. They value the experience of meeting new people and having fun in a group setting.
While attending parties can be a great way to socialize and build relationships, slay queens do not care to ensure that this behavior does not interfere with other important aspects of their life, such as their job, family, or personal health and wellbeing.
Slay queens always go with the flow because YOLO: You Only Live Once.
If you know a slay queen who is always at every party, it may be helpful to check in with them. Make sure they are taking care of themselves and maintaining a healthy balance between socializing and other responsibilities.
Do not test a slay queen with their level of ignorance, for they will always be surprised. Their level of ignorance can result from a lack of exposure or access to information, or by a deliberate choice to avoid or reject information.
While not all slay queens are ignorant, some have little formal education and sometimes are in for what they can get without necessarily being open to learn new things. Slay queens are set in their ways and it can be hard to change their minds.
Low income or poor backgrounds can further contribute to their level of ignorance.
Social media addiction
Slay queens sometimes have above average social media presence with very high visibility and activity on social media platforms such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, TikTok, and others.
This includes posting racy content frequently, plus a high level of engagement with followers.
Having a strong social media presence can be beneficial in many ways to slay queens. It usually helps increase their visibility, promote their brand (or whatever it is they are trying to sell – usually how awesome they are), connect with their fans, and establish themselves as influencers.
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One reason slay queens love sugar daddies may be due to financial stability. A sugar daddy is typically an older, wealthy man who provides financial support to a younger woman in exchange for companionship or other services.
The idea of having financial security and stability without having to labor for it themselves is attractive to some people. Another reason may be the allure of luxury lifestyle. Many slay queens love sugar daddies because they provide expensive gifts, lavish vacations, and other high-end experiences. This kind of lifestyle is very appealing.
However, not everyone who is interested in sugar daddy relationships is motivated solely by money or material gain. Some people love the idea of being with an older, more experienced partner who can provide guidance and mentorship in their personal or professional life. But the same cannot be said for slay queens.
Ultimately, we know it’s up to each individual to decide what kind of relationship they want to pursue and what their motivations are for seeking a sugar daddy, even in the case of slay queens. However, it’s important that you prioritize safety and respect in any kind of relationship, even if you are close to a slay queen. You have been warned.
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Slay queens are everywhere. If you are one of those who doesn’t mind chasing a slay queen, then its up to you. However, if you are like the rest of us (no judgement here) and you encounter any of these warning signs, it’s important to trust your instincts and take steps to protect yourself.
This can include verifying every thing her majesty tells you, securing your wallet and credit card from their endless demands and watching for all the red flags outlined above. May the force be with you.