For those who do not know, ‘breakfast’ is a Nigerian slang that means ‘to breakup’ or ‘to end a romantic relationship’.
It is commonly said that “gbogbo wa la ma je breakfast”, which loosely translates into “everybody will experience negative news at some point in their lives”. And in this case, the breakfast is a breakup.
Interestingly, the slang originated from a song called Breakfast by Oritse Femi. However, the term did not become popular till Grammy award-winning musician Burna Boy used it in his song Las las.
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Breakfast is not for the weak
Many people have fed us with tales of their breakfast experiences via social media, and I have come to the conclusion that Nigerians are wicked! And the wickedness is not gender specific.
So if you are reading this and you have recently been served breakfast, I’d like to first say ‘pele mai dia’. Hopefully, affliction shall not rise again.
Receiving breakfast is very painful and can come with a sense of loss, emptiness, and loneliness. To combat those feelings, here are some things you can do after being served
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How to get over a bad breakfast
Yes, you read that right. He is now your ex and you need to unfollow him on all socials. Why? Because over here, we love peace and sanity.
What? You thought this was gonna be cute advice? You need to not see this person for a long time. Cleanse yourself of their memories, and looking at their socials will not help you do that.
Do not stay friends
Not even joking. Some people try to remain friends with their exes, and some would advise you to, but you won’t get that here.
You cannot remain friends with someone you have feelings for and they broke your heart. It just doesn’t end well. Never has, never will.
You have other friends and you can make new ones.
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Allow yourself to feel all the emotions
Cry if you feel like it; do not hold it in.
You are free to laugh hysterically if that helps but please do not hold anything in.
If you are the type that finds it hard to express your anger, then journal or run. Just do something to express your sadness, anger and frustration over the matter.
Go out more
Go out and have fun!
Talk to new people, meet strangers, and try new things. Do not coop yourself up in a place mopping over someone. Let your hair out and go have fun.
Surround yourself with people who love you. Receiving breakfast has a way of making people feel unloved, so please go where you are loved.
Go home, go to friends. Go where you feel like your best self.
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Make a list
This is so important. Make a list of all the cons of your relationship. Write down everything wrong your ex did and how it affected you.
Ensure that you bring it out and look at it whenever you feel sad. It will help you be thankful for your escape.
Take up new hobbies
Try new things. Painting, art, dance. Try to do exciting stuff that would cause your heart to leap when you think about it.
You can try learning chess if you don’t know how to, go paintballing or do fun things to take your mind off the situation.
Do something you’ve always wanted to do
If you’ve always wanted to go on a solo trip, do it. If you’ve always wondered what it feels like to go mountain climbing, bungee jumping, whatever. Now is the time to do it.
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Focus on work
All that energy you want to use to be sad, please focus it on work. They say success is the best revenge. And according to all the movies on love and breakup I’ve watched, it’s either this or suddenly become the hottest person on the block.
And if we think about it carefully, hot people still dey chop breakfast. Just ask Stef London.
Also, success has a longer financial value. Abi you don’t like money?
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Practice self-love
This can come in different forms. It could be skincare, career glow-up, haircare, cooking for yourself, taking a vacation, taking yourself on a solo date whatever honestly.
Just do things that make you feel loved by you.
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Try to talk about it
Open up. To friends, to a therapist, if you can afford it. Being served breakfast hurts! It’s a form of pain and pain needs to be addressed so address it.
Talk about it. It will hurt at first, but after a while, you’ll feel better. And then it would become a funny story you tell yourself and others.
Remember, a problem shared is a problem half-solved.
Clear your space of anything that reminds you of them
Please take out everything that reminds you of them. Old pictures, hoodies, books, whatever. Give them away or keep them in storage far from your eyes.
I’d say burn them all but this page does not support violence.
The important thing is to clear your space of any reminders you may have of them. This will help you heal faster.
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In conclusion…
Getting over breakfast can be difficult, but the important thing is to look on the bright side. Be thankful they ended it now before things got out of hand.
Another important thing is that you do not close your heart to love. Find someone new, someone better to treat you the way you deserve.
And one last important pro tip before I leave; please don’t seek closure. You don’t need it, and it might end up opening other things. Like legs.
Focus on getting yourself out of the rut, and you can bet love will find you again.
