- An Oyinbo woman, Jane Lewis was heartbroken when she discovered what her husband had spoken unfavorably about her to his friend when they first met.
- She learned that her lover had bragging rights about ‘an ugly chick’ who reportedly yearned for him passionately in the messages he sent to his friends.
- Jane, who is a mother of three said that the texts had undermined her self-esteem and that, had she discovered them sooner, she might have considered leaving him.
An Oyinbo woman was horrified when she learned the unpleasant things her husband had told his friend about her when they first met.
Jane Lewis, a 40-year-old lady from New Jersey, checked her husband’s phone last month with his consent but was devastated by what she discovered.
Her partner boasted to his friends about ‘an unattractive female’ who allegedly yearned for him passionately in communications that she discovered.
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Oyinbo woman shocked after discovering her husband’s early messages before their marriage
Here is what the message reads; “She’s an ugly chick who wants me so bad.”
He continued to give specific details of their connection at the time, including the fact that despite Jane’s readiness to do everything for him, they hadn’t been physical.
Additionally, he reported felt compelled to “make out with her a little bit” in order to maintain Jane’s happiness.
Jane just learned about these devastating texts this month, six years after they were received and after they had already tied the knot in 2021.
Though he admitted to his friend that he had moved in with Jane, he said that Jane was not as desirable as the “hot girls he sees all the time.”
The next thing Jack said was that he thought he could have any girl, but that most “hot chicks are stuck up anyway.”
As soon as she asked her husband about it, he said that he was attempting to make himself feel better at the moment. Jane claims that her husband was humiliated.
Jane, the mother-of-three stated that the texts have damaged her confidence and that she would have thought about leaving him if she had seen them sooner.
“I went through his messages to see who he was talking to. Him and his friend don’t text that often so I only had to scroll back about ten messages. ‘I got to one from when we first got together saying he was using me for my money, how ugly I am and he won’t have s3x with me.
“It was pretty bad. It was very shocking. I was devastated. He was mortified, he was pretty upset and he apologised. He said he felt bad about himself [at the time] and he wanted to make himself feel better.
“I don’t know how I’ll move on from it. I’m hurt by it. If he asks me a question, I say: “‘I’m not stupid, I’m just ugly”. He calls me beautiful but I don’t believe him. It’s knocked my confidence. I have ugly duckling syndrome. I’ll always think I’m really bad looking.
“I would have left him if I found the messages in the beginning. I have to try to move past it, it’s seven years later and we’re married. If it was someone else who found the messages, I would tell them to leave because if I knew then what I know now I wouldn’t be with him. I wouldn’t have stuck through so many things.” She said.
Jack was a frequent shopper at the grocery store where Jane worked when the pair first got together.
According to her, they moved in together almost right away, and during the time Jack was sending her the texts, she believed their relationship was going well.
Her words,
“I thought we had a nice relationship. I don’t understand any of it. He was so nice to me and appreciative of everything I did. He was all round pretty kind. I had to do a double take when I found the messages. It seemed like our relationship was based on a lie. He didn’t treat me like that. It was out of character.
‘He wasn’t the person he was when we were together, he was sweet and flattering. He’s clearly a different person to me than he is to his friends and that’s messed up.
‘Marriage means a lot to him and he said he was never going to get married unless it was someone really special but I don’t believe anything he tells me now. He could be telling me one thing and other people another.”
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Meanwhile, a video of an Oyinbo woman expertly and meticulously pounding a cooked palm fruit has left many netizens praising her on social media.
In the video that was shared on TikTok, the white woman was captured pounding a palm fruit outside of their house with a mortar and pestle.
Palm Fruit in Africa aside from being used to extract palm oil can also be used to cook stew or soup called ‘Banga‘ or ‘Ofe Akwu.’
