There are some things you should never say to your boyfriend; not because they are impossible to forgive but because they are hurtful and leave scars. Saying hurtful things to someone you love erodes the relationship by affecting their mental health and reducing the trust they had in you.
If you want to build long-lasting relationships, you must avoid saying hurtful words in a relationship.
Things you should not tell your boyfriend
You remind me of my ex
You should not talk about your ex unless it’s to share your history and get closer to your current partner. Comparing the two men is a big no-no.
My dear, men don’t like to be compared. Especially to a man you once dated. Let your old relationship go and focus on the new one.
You need to man up
Men do not love being told to be “more masculine”. It gets them upset. Even if he’s not the most expressive or confrontational person, do not ever say these words to him.
It may seem that you think of him as a mumu or someone that doesn’t react quickly.
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Your friend is really fine
Place this as the most important thing that you should never say to your boyfriend. Just like you hate to hear your boyfriend ask about your friend, he hates it too. It may set off something in his mind.
You don’t want him to start distrusting you, so don’t make your man insecure by telling him how hot you think his friends are. Especially since you wouldn’t like it if he did it to you.
We need to talk
We know that Good communication is the foundation of a great relationship. However, if you do need to talk to your boyfriend, cut out the clichés. “We need to talk” can often lead your boyfriend to jump to the wrong conclusions.
It can pepper the body and he may get antsy.
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I’m shocked you remember
There’s a general misconception that men don’t remember important dates, what their favorite foods are, or when their birthday is. Saying this can make it seem as though he doesn’t care about you.
Girls, some men are just as observant and as thoughtful as women, and it’s insulting to think otherwise.
Your parents though….
Men can become very defensive when you speak about their parents or their parent’s marriage. Especially their mothers. Imagine telling your boyfriend that you think his mother is being unfair concerning whatever situation. He will fight with every fiber of his being.
It may come from a good place for you, but he may not see it as that. Even if you think his mother is being unreasonable, apply tact when bringing his attention to it.
I wish I never met you
This cuts deep and can even force your partner to begin pulling out of the relationship immediately. He may begin to withdraw from you and the relationship most physically and mentally.
This is why it’s important to take a breath when you’re upset. Don’t get too carried away that you let your emotions dictate your words.
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You have become fat
Note that most of these things may be said from a good place or a form of a joke, but men might take it seriously. Yes, it might be a predominantly female taboo phrase, but for men with self-esteem issues, it can have a terrible effect on their mental health.
Making a mockery of a person’s body type can lead to the deterioration of their self-esteem, and can lead to a lack of self-confidence. You know they trust your opinions. Come on, girl, don’t do that.
I don’t care
This is one of the things you or your partner should never say to each other. Why? Hearing “I don’t care” from someone who is supposed to have your best interests at heart can stimulate the fear of abandonment.
Yes, you don’t mean it, but try to not say this to your partner. If you don’t like hearing it, don’t say it either.
You never…
Saying this to your partner, more often than not, can easily become an invitation to a fight as they would want to remind you of all the times they did what you’re accusing them of not doing.
What have you ever done for me?
Yes, aunty. This is when you forget when he filled your car’s gas or bought that bone straight. When you say this, you hit a nerve.
This is one of the hurtful things to say to your partner because it trivializes all the sacrifices and efforts they may have made toward keeping you comfortable.
Don’t say this.
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I wish you (or we) could be like…
Madam, I know your friend’s relationship is beautiful and you may wonder why your partner is not like that. However, saying this can drive your partner to a point where they feel threatened like they aren’t enough for you.
Over time, this breaks their trust in you and can cause them to begin withdrawing from the relationship, emotionally and physically.
You are selfish!
Let’s face it. Relationships will not always be sweet. There will be times when you two cannot stand each other, probably due to an argument. You may then feel inclined to say this because you don’t get your way.
“You are selfish” is one of those things your partner should never say to you (and which you must never say to them as well). Just because they don’t meet a particular need at a time doesn’t mean they are selfish and don’t care about your well-being.
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He used to kiss me like this…
Yes, you’re the kind that talks about your ex. Don’t do it, especially when it comes to the aspect of s3x. No man wants to hear the fact that his girlfriend enjoyed the arms of another man.
Don’t even think about him.
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Conclusion
There you have it, things you should never say to your boyfriend. Aunty, you know that if your partner should say this to you, the entire world will not rest, so please refrain from saying these words about him.
Most importantly, love him and communicate with the appropriate words. Men are not always scum.
