How to Become a Sugar Daddy in Nigeria

Sugar daddy. aka Sucre papi. aka my sponsor or my uncle.

These are the many names used to describe older, sometimes married men that have relationships with younger girls in Nigeria

While many have condemned this practice, we cannot deny that this transactional relationship has helped a lot of Nigerian young girls and even families. 

Some might tag it as selling your body, but others see it as a means of getting what you want by using what you have. However you see it, sugar daddies exist and they are very direct about what they want.

How to become a Nigerian Sugar Daddy

If you are looking to quickly identify a sugar daddy or you are planning to pose as one, here are things to look out for:

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Serious money

You know I’m not joking when I add serious to the money because the sugar daddy industry is not for the weak. It is for those with heavy cash to spend. 

Potbelly

This is very important in the grand scheme of things because how do you want to identify with funds if you do not have a pot belly? 

The belly is a sign of many good things. It shows that you can afford to feed, and it also means that you are so busy making money that you don’t have the time to go to the gym. I mean do you see Dangote at the gym?

 

Generosity

You really don’t have to have a private jet to be a sugar daddy. There are sugar daddies of all income levels who can make their sugar babies very happy.

One thing that you do need to be a successful sugar daddy? Generosity.

You should be prepared to provide your sugar baby with any resources you may have. This could be as lavish as pricey presents and trips around the world. It might also be modest. Some sugar babies are pleased with a romantic date night at one of the area’s more upscale eateries. 

The fact that a sugar daddy makes seven figures does not matter if he is unwilling to share it. Thus, how much money you actually make doesn’t matter as much as how you treat your relationship.

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Non-Judgmental

A good sugar daddy can’t be judgy. He can’t say things like ‘you are too materialistic’. Why would you say that?! 

The entire point of the sugar daddy-sugar baby relationship is transactional. So, if you are going to judge a girl for being materialistic, then please, use the door.

Mentorship

Contrary to popular opinion, sugar daddies are not purely for s3xual pleasure. You need to be someone who can mentor your sugar baby as well. 

Remember, your relationship is not going to last forever so you need to leave a mark in her life. Help her learn from your life experiences and be open to impacting her with knowledge. 

This is how you graduate as a sugar daddy. 

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Honesty

Successful sugar daddies are honest and sometimes brutally so. Tell your sugar baby exactly how you want her to look or dress. Let her know exactly what you want from the relationship. 

If you’re not happy with something that they’re doing in the arrangement, it’s important to get your thoughts out into the open.

These conversations can sometimes be difficult to have. But by hiding your feelings, not following through on promises, or actively lying to protect yourself, you’re likely to miss out on a happy, steady arrangement.

Be a gentleman

The fact that she is your sugar baby doesn’t mean you have to be a brute. 

Open the doors for her when you go out. Compliment her looks. Hold hands with her when you are outside. Just be nice.

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Keep promises

Don’t be a liar. 

A real sugar daddy will never promise one thing and do the other. You need to remain consistent. 

For example, when you promise to buy her a new Lauren bag, you must buy it. You cannot promise and fail your sugar baby. She probably has had enough of that from her boyfriend already. 

Don’t take yourself seriously

Let’s be honest, you are not a permanent fixture in her life. Secondly, you probably want to take a break from the responsibilities of your daily life. So why take yourself so seriously? 

If your sugar baby teases you about something or the date doesn’t go exactly how you pictured it, learn to laugh it off. 

A good sugar daddy is confident enough to roll with the punches and treat their date to an enjoyable evening. Loosen up, and your sugar baby will also feel more at ease.

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Have a great scene of style

It doesn’t matter if you are wearing trad or casual clothing. The point is to look yummy every time! 

Keep your nails neat and look attractive, please. You cannot expect that your sugar baby is the one who is stylish while you look like something the dog dragged up. 

If you wanted to look drab, you wouldn’t be with a sugar baby.

Learn about your sugar baby

Don’t be a selfish person. A good sugar daddy should care about his sugar baby as well. About her health and well-being. About her dreams and aspirations too. 

Talk to your sugar baby. Know her likes and dislikes, her favorite food and drink. It doesn’t have to be the most intimate thing, because durhh. 

But get to know them even as they get to know you too. 

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Sugar daddies don’t fall in love

This is so important. If you fall in love, you have played yourself. 

Falling in love is not part of the game sir, except if you are lucky and she falls in love with you too then congratulations. 

But other than that, falling in love with your sugar baby will put you at a wide disadvantage, you don’t want to do that to yourself 

Remember you are a sugar daddy, not her actual father. So please know boundaries. It’s okay to mentor and correct your sugar baby sometimes, but never ever act like her parent. 

That is the golden rule to sugar daddying.