Cheating is a deal breaker for many people in relationships. What makes it worse is when you are suspicious of your partner and they keep denying it. Making you look cookoo or like you don’t know what you are talking about.
Gaslighting at its peak.
In this article, we will explore 10 signs to look out for if you suspect your partner is cheating on you.
10 signs your partner is cheating on you
They talk less
One of the most important aspects of any relationship is communication. If you notice a shift in communication between you and your partner, you might want to call that out.
One sure sign of cheating is that your partner will talk to you less. This is because they are probably expending that energy talking to someone else.
You will hear excuses like “I was busy” or “I’m really tired”
If your partner is the type to text you or call you to tell you the slightest thing that happened in their day, and suddenly they aren’t doing that anymore, then you might need to check your relationship.
They get really irritated for no reason
Everything you do just annoys them.
You find them constantly complaining about almost everything you do. Even things that you are an expert at, they complain.
They complain about your looks, your appearance, everything!
They start to compare you to someone else, and would typically say “dress like this, it looks classy”. In fact, look out for people around them that dress like that. That’s most likely the person they are cheating on you with.
Cheating partners will tend to compare you with whomever they are cheating with so as to assuage their guilt.
They get defensive when you try to bring it up.
This is one of the surest signs of a cheating partner.
Every time you try to bring up your fears or suspicions of them cheating, they get defensive!
They get so offended and then shift the blame to you.
They take so much pleasure in making you look like a mad person just because you mention them and cheating in a sentence.
You would hear things like, “so baby, you don’t trust me?” No, my dear, that’s why I’m asking you.
Some would even go as far as reverse psychology. Talmabout “yes, I’m cheating, so what?” The entire subject now becomes a debate and they tire you out with their arguments.
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They avoid PDA
For someone who used to crave your attention or touch, he or she suddenly doesn’t want to be seen in public with you or hold hands or such.
Whenever you take pictures together, it looks like this:
Or they fly like this:
Bruh, you are definitely on your own and they are cheating on you.
They become more attentive to your needs
This is really funny because it’s what you want, isn’t it? But it’s suspicious!
If your partner is becoming more attentive to your needs, doing what you would normally have to ask for repeatedly at one request, asking if you are okay, and checking in on you a little more than usual, you may want to check them too.
Most times, cheating partners try to assuage their guilt by paying attention to your needs. Especially when they have not become ogbologbo In cheating.
You can still pray for this one.
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They become secretive with their gadgets
Your partner changed the password and when you ask they get defensive? That’s a good sign of cheating.
You can’t even touch their gadgets or devices, not to talk of taking a call on their behalf without them pouncing on you. Better start packing your bag from that relationship because that person is definitely cheating.
They suddenly have new s3x moves
Someone who was content with sweet ol’ missionary, is now asking you to bend over or do like praying mantis?
Where did they learn that? If you ask them, they’ll say it’s from online. When did Porbhub start giving tutorials?
Trust me, their internet has two legs and something in between them.
If they are suddenly more exciting in bed and open to trying new things, you might want to check that. This can be a glaring sign of cheating.
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Your own relationship started out as an affair
If you are suspecting that a partner that cheated on someone to be with you is cheating, then they probably are.
Hanti Suliya, come on nowwwww… ki le expect?!
I don’t believe in the laws of karma, but the law of nature? That I strongly believe in. Why on earth will your relationship start as an affair and you expect loyalty all the days of your life? Why?
If they cheated on someone to be with you, then trust me; they are probably cheating on you to be with someone else.
The breakfast na cycle, and e don reach your turn.
SEE: Breakfast In Relationships: How To Serve It Well
Your friends are telling you they are cheating
Read this carefully.
If your friends ever tell you your partner is cheating, believe them!
Don’t argue, don’t even doubt it. Because the Yorubas have a saying that “what the elder sees while sitting, the child cannot see even if he climbs NEPA pole.” And your friends might not necessarily be ‘elders’ (at least pray they’re not), chances are they’re seeing some things that love is blinding you to.
And the wildest thing is that one of them is probably the guilty partner in the equation. So please, just believe them and take your L in peace.
Your instincts say they are cheating
God bless God for the gift of instincts.
Even if all of these signs are wrong, trust me when I say, your instincts are never wrong. If you think your partner is cheating, please believe yourself. Your mind is telling you what is true, and usually, this is the first sign. Your instincts.
Usually, though, we ignore this and start looking for other signs. But sometimes you need to start with this to nab a cheating partner.
Except if you’re a paranoid person. Then maybe you should get other signs first.
Signs your partner is cheating: In conclusion
A cheating partner is not the end of the world and I honestly cannot tell you what to do or not to do with this information. The important thing is how you move on from it, and knowing that you are not at fault for someone else’s actions.
